Game Set Match

I wish there was live action video of the game that will go down in Murley family history.

Today at approximately 11:35 am Jordan officially beat his dad in a game of tennis.

I heard it was a nail-bitter.  

Craig was a tennis star as a teenager and taught down at the local courts 

when we were going through university.  He loves this sport like no other.

He has never however prescribed to the philosophy of letting his kids win 

because they were short and adorable.  He has repeatedly taken them out to play his 

beloved sport and yes, beat them.  

Jordan has never let this discourage him.  He continued to get slaughtered by his dad, however each and every time he would inch closer and closer to narrowing the gap between their scores.  

And now the king of the court has been humbly subjugated and had to turn over his precious title to his oldest and tallest son. What a memorable day!

A Little Lesson

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, 

not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will.” 

                                          Vince Lombardi

Time

As summer comes to an end and September is upon us, I am happy to see that my potted flowers are still going strong.  Yes, for another year in a row, the winner of keeping our flowers looking like we have a gardener. . . 

M I R A C L E   G R O W 

Thank you miracle grow for turning my $19.99 Superstore hanging basket into a $45 Mandible Gardens looking one.

A Little Lesson

Wouldn't that be extraordinary if there was something we could give our kids that would help them to bloom and flourish and grow into all they were meant to become?  A simple solution that would help them to thrive, succeed and prosper in their season of youth.  Oh wait.

There is.

And it even costs a lot less then a bucket of miracle grow.



Our time. . .

Rolling Along

Whenever there is a creative project on my agenda I always manage to drop blogging off on the side of the road and drive off into the sunset.  When I return, it always pains me to know that months passed without even a single syllable posted on the shenanigans I call my life.  All those memories lying there like roadkill. If I could remember anything these days then this would not be an issue.  But my brain seems to be riddled with gaping wholes that lets everything slip out.  Literally.  Today I forgot to take Benjamin to soccer.  Grrrrrrrrrrrrr.

For the record, I was composing and creating the opening and closing ceremonies for a large YW camp for the entire province which ferried 500 girls and 140 leaders to the beautiful Vancouver Island for what was a Girl's Camp of a lifetime!  It was quite a historical event for these parts.  Not quite as epic as the Youth Temple Event back in 2010, but close.

After a short theatre event with myself and two of my buddies dressed as biblical townspeople from different dispensations commentating on technology and social media and all of its quirks and glory . . . attention was turned to a screen draped high amongst the 500 year old trees that blanket our beautiful island forests where we were dwelling for the week, to show the YW a special presentation of them in action -  secretly sent to us by their leaders from every city in the province.   (pheeew! that was a really long sentence)

Opening Ceremonies Video
Camp Theme:  It's Time . . . to Come Unto Christ

We shared the stage with the one and only Sister Elaine Dalton for our closing ceremonies.  She used to be the General Young Women's president.  She was simply awesome.  This is the culminating video I had to put together in warp speed on that final day so that it was ready for the final night of camp.

Closing Ceremonies Video

 A Little Lesson

When I blog each day I take more photos of the people I love.  I take more time to stop smell the roses.  I reflect more on the big picture.  I capture the moments that will make me smile when I am in my golden years.  Somehow I have to figure out how to keep the car rolling when I'm tempted to slow down and chuck blogging out the window.  

The Better Part

I was looking through some old drafts that I never posted and found this blog entry I wrote when Parker was just a newborn. For some reason I forgot or decided not to post it.  After looking at the tender moment in the picture. . . it startled me as I read the first line.  "every single room in my house was a mess . . ."  Long gone are the feelings of wishing my house was cleaner.  Did I end up with a clean house that day . . . who cares.  Oh what I would do to hold that little newborn of mine again.  He was so small, so happy to be here and so beautiful.  I decided to post this as a reminder to me . . .  remember the better part.    

It makes me think of the poem cross-stitched on my Aunt Lisa's wall when I was a teenager. . . 

Cleaning and scrubbing 

Can wait till tomorrow

Babies grow up

We've learned to our sorrow

So quiet down cobwebs 

Dust go to sleep

I'm rocking my baby

Cause Babies Don't Keep!

When I took this picture, every single room in my house was a mess. No exception.

I just caught them looking at each, talking to each other.

Gazing at each other totally oblivious to everyone else.

It was a beautiful moment.

A Little Lesson

I'm so glad I stopped cleaning and picked up the camera.

Cool

Clara keeps us cool at dinner by whipping up green shakes for us on a regular basis.
She's been taught how to make those nutritional shakes most of her life.
But after a fun "how to" session with the achievement day leaders,
 it all of a sudden became pretty cool to make those frothy drinks for us night after night.

A Little Lesson
Thank you Achievement Day leaders for making cool green shakes cool.
Now here are some suggestions for future lessons...
weeding the garden
practicing the piano
Saturday chores
playing with younger brother
So far these activities have not reached cool status yet.

It All Happens in the Clouds

Our youth activity was going to be held at our place on Tuesday evening so I quickly zipped over to the church to pick up a few things for the activity with my six year old travelling companion Benjamin.

As we drove into the empty church parking lot...

Benjamin:  Mom where are all the cars?
Mom:  It's not Sunday honey, nobody is here.
Benjamin:  except Jesus.
Mom:  what?
Benjamin:  Jesus, He lives at the church.
Mom:  Are you sure about that?
Benjamin:  Of course.  He also lives in heaven with Heavenly Father, but he comes down to be in the church when we are there, so we can be close to Him.  As he travels through the clouds he becomes invisible.  That's why we don't see Him.  But he's here.  Then when he goes back home he is normal again.  It all happens in the clouds Mom.

A Little Lesson

Over the years our children have come up with wonderful ideas of how things work in the big picture.  I never question. The older I get the more I tend to believe they are probably not too far off the mark.

Dear Mom

Dear Mom,

I understand you might be a little frustrated.  When I broke your violin-playing-music-figurine from your childhood I was just trying to play with it gently.  Honest. It's strange how it's been in storage all these years and so soon after you  brought it out I broke it.  Weird. It sure was neat watching it twirl around like that to that pretty song.  Incidentally,  my ability to climb up on things is coming along nicely, wouldn't you say?  I know you love me so much and this is just one of those moments we will laugh about hysterically when I am in my twenties.  I promise.  Until then, hang in there mom, only sixteen more years before I leave for my mission.
                  
                                Love, 
                                Parker

It Bites!

More than our first car,

more than our second car,

more than my church mission to Japan,

more than Craig's church mission to the Bahamas,

more than our whole family flying to Australia in first class. . .

is the combined cost of my teenager's braces.

A Little Lesson

They don't even have very crooked teeth, just lop-sided bites.

Yes, sometimes you have bite the bullet and pay for lame things like braces, drain tiles & alternators.

Frequently I had to bite my tongue when I would see them eat candied popcorn, toffee and caramels.

( 2 years is a long time! )

The day Jordan went to the ortho to get them off was a bit of a nail-biter,was it going to be worth it?

Check out that new $8000 bite!

Awesome ...I didn't want to take my family to Australia anyway.

Sharing

 Parker and his good buddy Carter at the Canada Day Ward Picnic. . .

   "Carter do you want to play with my football?"

 "It's super fun, my big brother Jordan and I play all the time!"

"Actually yep, nope, I'm just going to take this back now, I've decided against that idea..."

"What?"
"I'm not even two yet.  I'm not even going to think about sharing until I'm four."

A Little Lesson:

Is it possible for the caboose of a family to ever learn to share?

Even when all odds are against them?

When tired mothers tell all other offspring to give them WHATEVER will make them stop screaming . . . while driving to basketball, dance, swimming, seminary, school and church?

Hmmmmmm

This mom believes kids should NOT be taught to share . . .

Lost

Emily challenged her big brother to a push-up and sit-up competition.  

She lost.  

A Little Lesson

I won't say how badly she lost, but I will say three weeks 

of all-you-can-eat-Netflix doesn't do anything for your abs.

(Parker couldn't resist getting in on the action.)

Word

I know, I know, word clouds are yesterday's news, but I still think they're pretty awesome.

You can click here and do one for yourself for free online.

Each of these words represent something I love and enjoy or something I once loved and enjoyed.

What beautiful words these are.

A Little Lesson

But let's be honest, there is usually another whole set of words that can also describe us . . . 

how on earth did my kitchen get so messy?    d i s c o u r a g e d
what do you mean you didn't eat any of your lunch?   a n g r y 

why is gaining weight so much easier than losing it?   f r u s t r a t e d 

are my kids really going to fight about this?  d i s a p p o i n t e d 

did I honestly just spend that much money at Costco?  e x h a u s t e d

did my kid really just smell the dinner I put in front of him?  f e d   u p 

What we choose to think about will always make all the difference.

Let virtue garnish thy thoughts unceasingly . . .

D&C 121:45

Nature

It's in our nature to have a full calendar with plans weaving in and out of every chunk of time.
Last night it was sprinkling and cloudy so we loaded the kayaks and headed to the lake. 

We didn't worry about what we were wearing or what we were doing, 

we just dropped everything and got in the car.  

The beach was empty but we filled it quickly with laughter, squeals of delight and the odd quarrel.

Good Times.

A Little Lesson

There are about five Albert Einstein quotes that I love and suspect 

have literally shaped how I look at the world.

This is one of them.

Amen to that.

For the Love of Pete!

If you ever call my house and I don't answer.  Cut me some slack.

A Little Lesson:

This is the THIRD time Parker has covered himself in handfuls of vaseline from our vaseline tub.  If you're wondering, it takes approximately two hours of bath time, and two rolls of toilet paper, to bring Parker back to a semi-normal state.  It is a reflection of three truths. 1. Parker loves the feel of vaseline all over his body.  2. Parker has too much time on his hands.  3.  I still have some child-proofing to do.

Count on It!

Here is Clara making a snowball back when we had that  ONE day of snow we had over the entire holidays.  

Today it will be TWO weeks since Christmas and it's starting to feel like the decorations have been up too many days.  Let the take down marathon begin.

Benjamin is sadly playing Lego on his own because Clara's best buddy Reed is over and THREE'S a crowd!

Today I bought Craig FOUR new desperately needed dress shirts for work. When I showed him my fabulous find, he announced he had ordered three online three days earlier and forgot to mention it.

A Little Lesson

You can count on the fact that no matter what life deals us there are always two ways of looking at it . . .
Geographically speaking . . .
I'm sure Hawaiians and Haitians alike would be grateful for even one hour of snow.
Mothers in North Korea, would probably love the freedom to put up and take down decorations from any religious celebration they choose.
Most little boys in Nigeria would probably be delighted to spend the afternoon alone with a drawer full of Lego.
And the average wage of a husband in Sierra Leone per day is $1. Owning seven new dress shirts would be like winning the lottery.

The glass is surley half full.  Count on it.

Floored

Someone asked me the other day . . . is he rolling over yet?  I replied in slow motion as my brain started thinking in overdrive "nooooo heeeeee's nooooooot mmmmmmmmm"  It occurred to me this baby of ours, if you can believe it has never, yes, never been placed on the floor!  What!?!  He's over three months old!
All our other babies spent countless hours down there while we sat next to them, cooing, filming, clapping, talking and making ridiculous "getting the baby's attention" sounds.  Oh we have plenty of reasons for this oversight.

1. Our house doesn't have one square inch of carpet.  (not including the stairs of course, but laying him on the stairs seemed rather stupid.)

2. Our house is full of unruly dogs. (sort of)

3. There are twelve arms flapping around all over this house just craving for a few minutes of snuggle time with this baby rockstar.

And so folks, this is the FIRST picture of Parker Thomas laying on the floor.

Incidentally, in the fourteen minutes he spent on the floor, he did not roll over, and I had three people enter the room and say "What's he doing on the floor!!! I'll take him!"

A Little Lesson

I'm not reading the What to Expect the Toddler years, or surfing new mother websites or forums.  Nope.  When I run into a new mom holding a small infant anywhere, and there are a few minutes to converse, I quickly ask what they're worried about to make sure I'm not missing anything too big, as I try to shuffle my brewd around town.  The other day I did this and was reminded from a lovely new mom stranger about the good ol' vitamin D drops for babies in the winter time.  Whoops.  It's all good.

I was floored to find out from the nurses in the hospital, when I had Parker, the newest and latest for the new mother is:
1. we no longer swadle babies (we don't!!!)
2. when it's time to start feeding them solid food, start with red meat not rice cereal (what!)
3. There were a few more but I think I started tuning her out.

We used to let babies sleep on their stomachs, ride shotgun in the car without a seatbelt, and apparently pencils used to really have real lead in them.  It's a miracle we are all still here!

It's That Time of Year

If

If you can keep your head when all about you

Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,

If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,

But make allowance for their doubting too;

If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,

Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,

Or being hated, don't give way to hating,

And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream - and not make dreams your master,

If you can think - and not make thoughts your aim;

If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster

And treat those two impostors just the same;

If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken

Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,

Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,

And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings

And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,

And lose, and start again at your beginnings

And never breathe a word about your loss;

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew

To serve your turn long after they are gone,

And so hold on when there is nothing in you

Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,

Or walk with kings - nor lose the common touch,

If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,

If all men count with you, but none too much;

If you can fill the unforgiving minute

With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,

Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,

And - which is more - you'll be a Man, my son!

Rudyard Kipling (1865-1936)

This is my go to poem.  I think about it when I am setting goals.  I think about it when I have a big decision to make.  I think about it when I am tempted to loose it. It's my all time favourite poem ever.  My grade seven teacher Mrs. Pinegar had our whole class memorize it and recite it as a class, for our grade seven graduation.  I can still recite about half of it.  It's January and it's on my mind.  Thank you Mrs. Pinegar.

A Little Lesson

Memorizing things as a child is a brilliant gift you give to your future self.  I used to allow my kids the opportunity to reduce the time away from confiscated items due to sibling unkindness by memorizing awesome quotes and scriptures.  I bringing that parenting strategy back.

Contagious

Our house is healthy again, so Craig took the older kids out to the movies.  When they all came home they entered the kitchen as if they hadn't seen the baby for three weeks.  It had only been three hours.  I love that.

A Little Lesson

Star -struck, captivated, enthralled, smitten, entranced, bewitched  - these people are just plain crazy about their little brother.  It's contagious.  We just seem to keep giving it to each other!

Occupied

I found it.  It was right there all along, but I didn't know I could just take it and chomp on it whenever I liked!  It's so awesome. I can even switch hands.  Sometimes my mom's really busy and I start to get hungry.  It doesn't fill me up or anything but man does it keep me occupied until my mom is ready to nurse.  So cool.

A Little Lesson
Around here it is an essential skill to know how to keep yourself happily occupied.
As I write this . . .

Jordan is gutting his closet of unwanted clothes.
Emily is doing a remake of an Adelle song in the recording studio.
Clara is putting Barbie stickers on her new camper
Benjmain is harvesting a garden on Smurfs.
And now Parker is inhaling his right hand.

Good Night

A Little Lesson

 Having a newborn during this Christmas season has made me 

reflect over and over and over again about the literal birth of our Savior.  

I put Parker in an extra cozy flannel sleeper, swaddle him in a soft clean fleece blanket,

 turn on quiet  Christmas music and rock him to sleep, where I will then lay him in a bassinet, 

turn off the light, check the heat, turn on the monitor, kiss him one more time on the forehead, 

say goodnight and close the door.  

And his name shall be called. . .

Wonderful, Counselor, the Mighty God,

the Everlasting Father, the Prince of Peace.

And yet

 he was born under the stars, placed upon hey, and surrounded by animals.

The son of God came quietly to the earth, to quietly, one by one, save us all.

6 Days A Week, 52 Weeks a Year

He took Christmas eve, Christmas day and boxing day off.  Except Sundays, he pretty much plays basketball every other day of the year.  The past two days he was invited to play up with the seniors at a tournament in the states, and of course there is a practice tomorrow at 10 am.

A Little Lesson

Right now, Jordan's ultimate dream would of course be to one day play in the NBA. His perhaps more realistic dream would be to play college ball. If someone said to me the chances of a white, 6'2" Canadian boy making it to the NBA are essentially 0%,  I would say that's okay.  One,  it doesn't matter if you make it to the very top.  I believe the skill of developing a talent, honing a skill, reaching beyond the mark, and pushing yourself to excellence is a life changing skill that can be used in every future area of your life whether or not you actually use that original skill directly.  

Two. . . S t e v e   N a s h.